How To Get ‘Stuff’ Done?
When I was all “new” to adulthood and goal setting I was totally naïve, I had no idea about what I wanted nor how to get what I wanted.
I had very limited skills, I had a lot “potential” and yet I felt stuck!
Growing up I was very academic, which to be totally honest was more coincidental than anything else as I had a “pushy mother” on the one hand and no friends on the other!
What I mean to say is: studying hard and spending some time gathering information was NOT uncommon for me nor challenging…
So, I got to work and with what I found I was left even more confused!!!
Truthfully, it didn’t take much to confuse me as EVERYTHING was new to me, I became an adult far away from what I was used to: different language, different environment, different culture and I was alone, I had no family with me, just a partner who didn’t know how to communicate the adult stuff to me.
I read and read AND read till my eyes went red and square; I even found myself searching for the meaning of life, there had to be a clue somewhere.
All I found was:
- You have to be motivated to achieve your goals and get sh*t done,
- You have to set SMART goals (I did wonder who’d want to set STUPID goals?) LOL!,
- You have to commit and be accountable for your actions,
- You have to get to work straight away.
These all made sense and kind of did make a difference in my life at the time, however, it was through my own trial and error that I learned what was missing.
The missing link!
It wasn’t until I was in my late 20’s and tired of the “rat race” and being dictated my worth that I got serious about creating a vision and a very compelling future for myself, so something I have never done had to be done.
What was it?
I had to be disciplined and do what others wouldn’t do to work magic in my life, I wanted to be self-employed and call my shots, I had to be someone else, someone who’d be stopped at NOTHING!
How did I do this?
When I look back and see what I did then I admire myself for the sacrifices made and EVERYHTING I did to make my dreams come true.
I was working full-time for a catering company and at the same time I was studying a full time Management course in my local college, a part time accountancy foundation AND some online courses.
I didn’t sleep more than 3 hours for months and months, I never missed one day at work or college, I submitted all my assignments on time AND I started a new relationship at the same time. If I am honest, the new relationships was the hardest!!!
The discipline I introduced into my routine was worthy of the military, up at the crack of dawn and I’d be up until EVERYTHING that had to be done was done. I pushed myself to new heights and I discovered I could do WHATEVER I set my mind to.
If I am honest, my dreams didn’t materialise immediately, it was on the second year of my Management course when I noticed how poorly staff were trained at work, how they were made feel they were unworthy of their jobs and this resulted in all of them having a low self-esteem, ultimately affecting the results at work.
This was the moment I discovered I was only getting started and there was more I had to do to not only work on my terms but to help people overcome their self-esteem and confidence issues, and to provide the appropriate training tools for employers so their staff performance and self-esteem were EVER increasing.
The 2 lessons I learned to get stuff done were:
- I had to be disciplined, do what I had never done before, go where I had never gone before and do whatever (within reason!) it took to get sh*t done!
- I had to become someone else, not a crummy version of someone else or a copy-cat, but a me that would stop at NOTHING to make my dreams come true, to overcome the obstacles that would come my way and have the strength I needed to go all the way where my dreams were.
This is what I learned worked for me, becoming disciplined and a better, stronger version of myself, I added these to the goal setting, motivation and ALL the other things I had learned.
You want to know what?
That search I did about the meaning of life did help, it enabled me to distinguish that I had to think of others and have a purpose, essentially become more to do more.
Powerful stuff, right?
I am glad you have read today’s post and I look forward to writing more useful content for you.
With all my love,